If you are like most divorcing couples with children, you recognize that while your marriage may have failed, you still have a family together. While sharing joint custody, you and your former spouse try to do everything in your power to make the divorce as easy as possible for your kids. How do you know whether it is a good idea to partake in nesting? 

Nesting is the terms used for when children stay in their familial home and parents take turns moving in and out. According to Psychology Today, there are good reasons why this makes sense for certain families. First, nesting provides security for children during a period of transition. It allows your kids to remain in familiar surroundings while many changes are taking place in your domestic structure and can give them a feeling of being in control. 

Nesting also provides some stability for you and your spouse. You may not feel as pressured to make quick decisions about whether to sell your house or where to establish new homes. And, nesting can give you some financial relief, as it may be less expensive than setting up two distinct households. 

The good news is that there is no one-size-fits-all formula for this concept. You can accomplish nesting in different ways with your ex during your non-custodial week through staying with respective family members, finding a distinct living space within your family home, or even sharing an off-site residence. However, for nesting to be successful, you need to be able to communicate expectations with your former spouse. And, it is best if you do this detailed plan in writing.